You Can Heal Your Life

書名： 創造生命的奇蹟

               You Can Heal Your Life (by: Louise L. Hay)

淺讀這本書時就發現它傳達了不只勵志，更有重建 與療愈的訊息。 以往接觸的多是勵志類書籍， 藉由讀它增強自己的信心， 的確也幫我在面對問題時不至躊躇不前。而這自己治療生命的concept 讓我好奇。  作者以自己悲慘的經歷為例，發現人生無常， 能幫助自己的不是別人， 而是自己。  靠著自己心態的轉變，積極對外探索， 藉由愛生命，愛自己，把人生過得完美。

我們經常覺得自己不夠好，來自各方負面批評的影響，另我們害怕犯錯而失去信心。 就像我常責備孩子做的不夠好，其實是期待孩子來滿足大人的要求。結果，  把孩子努力呈現他們完美的信心從此徹底毀了。  這種承襲幾世代，“應該如此”的教條，把人設限在逃不出的框，不知謀殺了多少創造。

很喜歡作者自勉與傳遞我們的訊息 “在我的生命中， 一切都是完美，完滿和完整的”， 初看下覺得有點誇張。  小時候一定會被逼交出第一名成績在說自己完美吧。習慣了看人臉色做努力後,我們不再相信自己， 認為怎麼做都不合理想，對未來也恐懼。東西方的思想真不同，我認識的老外朋友教我， 當別人讚美你的時候應該開心的說Thank You， 不要老是客套的說 NO, I am not that good.  讓聽者覺得臭屁又 無禮，明明就很棒幹嘛否認。 而且如果我們都不懂欣賞自己的所作所為，別人也不會認同你了。 我從那時起就訓練改變自己的思想，相信每個人都獨特也都有才能，好像 飛機的組成需要繁雜的不同零件，每一個零件都功能完美的牽動另一個，缺一不可，我就是那組成社會的缺一不可。 

最近身體不太聽話， 反而讓我改變了思考和態度，把原來的精力從動態活動轉型靜態，更加充實了我的生活。   其實該說是我不太聽身體對我說的話，所以它以背痛傳遞訊息讓我安靜聽話，雖然我不確定我可不可以 自療它， 但是與其痛苦的怨天尤人， 不如快樂的與其共處。

有時會聽人說，“ 沒希望了，等待奇蹟出現吧！”，等待不如行動，奇蹟其實就在身邊，就看你什麼時間想打開它。

Crystal's Graduation Episodes

Time fly, my daughter has grown into this well behalf, nice young little lady with good grades that make her mom and dad proud.  Watching her every step  since she was born, she has been trained to be the way I wanted her to be, it is time to let go, let her be who she really is and the way she wants to be from now on.

Episode #1 Ceremony

Episode #2 Party Time

 

I bet every girl all has this fantancy of being a princess once in their life time, even girl as town boy as Crystal.  It's a magic that this pretty dress can transform a girl's mind , then her behavior and I guess our relationship.   Give her something she will remember for life, and she can remember who's behind that Cinderalla story, too.

Girl's night out...

 
I haven't seen these new and old gym friends for such a long time , it was so exciting that we made this girl's night out finally happened.

We chose this date  to this trendy wine bar restaurant  suggested by  a friend, apparently everyday they provide different theme to entertain customers,  and Wednesday is the date for Salsa night,  after dinner there are life band to perform in this restaurant and a dance instructor will be there to  give Salsa lesson before we go crazy on the dance floor.

Some of us have never experience the night life after  having kids, and now the kids are more independent , we should deserve a little fun time before we got too old to even think about it!

Food were excellent prepared, waitresses were friendly and the music made you just wanted to move your body.   Loving it.

String in Harmony

練琴中的小朋友，興奮寫在臉上，恨不得馬上就可以上台表演， 讓等待中的家長驕傲。  這些8 到 10 歲 的孩子，坐在古箏前顯得更小，但舉手投足間的鎮定應是讓另一群年輕的表演者羨慕不已。年輕人開始有自我意識，害怕不夠完美又擔心出槌，緊張的食不下嚥。  看著他們在這麼熱的禮堂，頂著濃妝不停的練習，心想如果是我女兒， 以往我應該也是坐在旁邊擠眉瞪眼的虎媽吧。學習到底是應該痛苦還是愉快的呢？

小小孩不費力使自己完美, 敢自由表達情感，學習當遊戲，追求的只是開心的過完今天, 忘了昨天，也不想明天，非常真誠的做現在的自己。而當我們年紀愈大，害怕失敗，計較成果，學習反到成為苦差事，總覺得是為做給別人看而努力。年紀和所在乎的事幾乎是成正比的，而越在乎越會另自己更不安，結果就是不能快樂的過自己想要的生活也就漸漸的失去了自己原本的信念了。

現在的我認為 完美，成功並不是學習所追求的結果，如何從學習得到體驗，進而達到完成，這中間經過的過程才是值得鼓勵的。只希忘在時間愈少的同時，自己和身邊的人能放下過去，不管未來，盡力且沒有壓力的完成想做的事。將來才不會後悔沒有放空自己快樂的享受每一個新體驗。

Unionville Festival

41 C Golfing experience~~~

I can understand how a proper set up is the fundamental of a good ball strike, these ladies all have perfect set up... but how I don't understand is why they also have finished swing the same way......er....amazing!!!!

Old friends

Janet & me

Last summer I found out one of my college school mate lives so close to me and we have not known each other's existence until friend's connection through email.  Must say that again--"the power of Internet, reunite so many lost friends and family".  

Spa @ Home

Creepy

I was just not feeling right about my right ear 2 weeks ago, here comes a phone call from Lucy telling me she is coming over to make me “蠟燭耳朵”， I thought she is maybe making "貓耳朵“ the kind of noodle soup my dad used to make us when we were little.  Turns out, she wants to ear candle me, it is a spa term for cleaning your body system through the ears, ahhhh, what an angel of her sensing my needs.

Read about a book stating "thinking of what you need, and it will eventually come to you"~~~~ I can't say I believe it, but it happened to me many times...

Distillery District

The Distillery District is a village of brick-lined streets and many of restored Victorian Industrial buildings. It’s one of Ontario’s hottest tourist attractions I just learned today , there are  theatres, galleries, fashion, design and jewelry boutiques, unique coffee shops and restaurants. It's wonderful to spend a day with friends and family in this summer like day and close it up with a icy cold beer..ahhhhhhh..what a treat!!!

Golf Bond Head

Blue sky + cotton white cloud + green everwhere = Golf
Not wasting the good weather at all, 2nd day golfing on the road....

Don't know how many times I have been golfing at this same north course, but it's breathtaking view just hasn't got me bored of coming back again and again!

National Pine Golf Course

Pretty weather, pretty course, not so pretty score!!!!

Hot stuffs~~

What a productive day for me, my other good far away neighbour Lucy knows my craving about hot stuffs,  Today, she brings along ingredients not only show us how to make chili oil with spice as well as the spicy tofu salads that I admired so much she made last class. 

It's super easy and yet taste so fresh....Now I know..to bring up the smell of the spice, we need to heat them up first and smash them to crunches before adding them to any dishes you wish..

Bendor and Gravens Tract - 81Hectares

Interesting hiking route at this tract, all about discovery. 

Leader Kelvin is a very nice U of T professor who explains every question that we have during this 10km hike.  The high rise stair like station was an observation desk for deer hunter in the hunting season at the past.  And there are horse tail plants everywhere in this tract, they used to be sign for native people to identify the source of water.

We spotted a rare type of flower, it grows from bottom and lays on the ground, no idea what it's called, and lots of freshly bloomed ferns..reminds me of beer house food in Taiwan.

Cooking Italian

No Knead Bread..baking the perfect loaf of bread at home

Roasted bell pepper,artichoke & sundried tomato
Chick peas salad

Napoleon layered salmon and scallops

Marble chiffon cake

Photoshop - element



Hahaha.....

 

As I was having fun editing photos, kid  didn't seem happy to pose for mom's request....haha, I even forced her to change clothes for more effect..

Scout Tract - Eldred King

Today, I bring along a new fried to try out this usually slow pace of Monday hiking.....she almost cry during  the journey.  Who would know that the group leader was switched to Joan, this tiny old lady walks super fast, even athletic people like me were having difficulty catching her up.........

This friend called me the evening, complained about the pain that restrict her from doing everything, (omg, I crippled her) but  thankful that I pushed her into this activity and were quite happy that she made her first step out doing something good to her health. 

It feels good  to see any friend who decided to love herself once again, by changing to a healthier life style.

Mother's day at Edwards Gardens

This colder weather finally come to an end, bright sun and cool breeze make this mother's day weekend a perfect time to gather Friends and kids for a healthy outdoor activity.

Kids were like unleashed pets, running free.......and having tons of fun and workout.  If there were no TV, no PC, no Iphone........I believe kids will happily enjoy and appreciate more for home get away.

Awesome flowers everywhere as you stroll along the trail, just can't stop photographing them, want to capture all that make you wooooah!!!!

1st game of the season~~

I have only 2 words to describe today's game...................Suck...........&..........Suck...........
haha, but I don't care, as long as I can still get up, walk out and breath... I will make golfing part of my life.   I need to learn how to by pass the pain that bother me and enjoy the surrounding that bring me tremendous happiness.   Tranquil, greens, friends, fun & embraced by nature... .I took the photo of the tree, because it so much looked like my spine in the X-ray, crooked.....

Greener life....

People everywhere are making commitments to save energy in as many ways as they can, reduce waste and to provide a healthier environment.  And we can all do this by living green. Living green is a concept that involves creating greener homes ; homes that make use of energy efficient appliances and various other energy efficient sources.  We all need to take part of protecting our environment for future, as the natural resource will become scarce pretty soon if we don't care and not educate our younger generation  about energy saving concepts. 

Soap Making - Episo #2

After the lesson, we decided to make our own soap.  Exciting and scary at the beginning, we covered ourself so well, not taking a chance to get poisoned.   After few batches, we gain experience and it actually was not that dangerous as Vicki said... One litre of extra virgin olive oil can make about 40pcs of soaps, very cost effective, consider each pc of hand made soap priced at at least over $6.00 .